Did Evolutionary Psychology Get Dating All Wrong? - Dr Paul Eastwick - #1056

Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher.

Much of what we think we know about relationships comes from an evolutionary psychology lens, but what if that framework is flawed? In his groundbreaking new research, Dr Paul Eastwock challenges long-held assumptions, turning evolutionary psychology on its head. So where did it go wrong, and what new models replace it?

Expect to learn where the Evo Psych community may have been wrong about mating and relationships, the biggest problem with the term “mating market”, how accurate people’s opinions are and ideas at their “type” or mate preferences, what men find appealing in women and visa versa, what Paul’s definition of attachment in adulthood via safe haven (support in adversity) and secure base (support in growth) is, why masculinity needs reimagining and much more…

Timestamps:

(0:00) What’s Really Broken in the Modern Dating Market

(15:00) Is Romance Just a Hierarchy of Inequality?

(25:01) Does Self-Improvement Boost Dating Success?

(31:43) What Men and Women Really Find Attractive

(42:56) How Online Dating Is Changing Relationships

(47:07) The Biggest Traits We Misjudge in Men and Women

(58:20) Does Waiting to Have Sex Improve Relationships?

(01:14:54) Why Attachment Matters in Love

(01:19:17) Why Breakups Hurt So Much

(01:29:47) Are Humans Meant to Be Monogamous?

(01:34:49) Where to Find Paul

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