Episode 71: Escaping approach-avoid conflicts

An approach-avoid conflict occurs when we want a relationship with a particular person at the same time that we are repelled by certain aversive or unwanted characteristics of that person. We don‘t want to give up what we want, but we also don‘t want to go after what we want. People can experience a great deal of emotional distress as a result of this ambivalence. In this episode, I‘ll discuss two tips for resolving these contradictory impulses: prioritizing what is over what could be, and making decisions ”for now.”