Is it possible to attain wisdom without having to learn the hard way? In today’s episode, I discuss how people learn by walking the two paths: the path of light and the path of pain. Most people learn most of their lessons on the path of pain, which is a kind of feedback that the models from which our behavior proceeds are not aligned with reality. Fortunately, we can all learn to walk on the path of light by learning from the pain of others.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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Episode 498: The two paths (how people learn)

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Orion Taraban Episodes Around January 13, 2025

Episode 483: Holders and sniffers (which one are you?)

Episode 484: The most effective marriage intervention (get out of the house)

Episode 485: The two relationships (marriage does not get you love)

Episode 486: The beam in your own (you're not working hard enough)

Episode 487: Test her (how to screen women)

Episode 488: Mother love vs. father love (understanding their strengths and liabilities)

Episode 489: You can't get there the same way twice (success is a moving castle)

Episode 490: You never lose someone all at once (why it takes men so long to get over it)

Episode 491: A feast of crumbs (how men get used)

Episode 492: How to be a better person (the unexpected driver of kindness)

Episode 493: Wrestling with the angel (you have to fight for your life)

Episode 494: You are two men (how to accelerate your development)

Episode 495: The truth about good relationships (tea over rice)

Episode 496: Where the battle is won (the ten second conflict)

Episode 497: Put her to work (women want to care for you)

Episode 498: The two paths (how people learn)

Episode 499: Women don't close (what you want doesn't matter)

Episode 500: Men don't want a challenge (his life is hard enough)

Episode 501: Your money's no good here (you cannot buy a relationship long-term)

Episode 502: The truth about mental illness (how to live with it)

Episode 503: When women hedge (the bet determines the payout)

Episode 504: Tests are opportunities (the way of Hercules)

Episode 505: Creating a monster (how men ruin their relationships)

Episode 506: Winning to lose (what do you hope to gain?)

Episode 507: The Easter egg hunt (how women get men to lose)

Episode 508: Men need friends (the loneliness problem)

Episode 509: Staying for the kids (responding to the arguments)

Episode 510: Not everyone can be happy (your thoughts create your reality)

Episode 511: Attachment can change (overcoming relational insecurity)

Episode 512: Who speaks for men? (the disappearance of male space)

Episode 513: The beginning of the end (how men lose power in relationships)

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