Learning To Suffer Well | Full Auto Friday | 5.01.2026

Four questions this week. The kind that don't have clean answers.

A guy whose father murdered his mother is asking how to get back to who he was before. He's not.

A 28-year-old still living at home is watching his mom's cancer come back and trying to figure out how to spend the time he has left.

A man in his sixties wants to know how to bring up suicide with three friends he's had for 40 years before it's too late.

A 31-year-old in his first long-term relationship doesn't feel anything for the woman he's dating but knows everyone around him likes her.

I talk about why the people you see online keeping it together aren't keeping it together. I talk about why the snapshot isn't the whole picture. I talk about why the first therapist who wants to sell you his book isn't the last therapist you'll need to find. I talk about going right at the hard conversation instead of around it. And I talk about why bringing the government into a relationship you're already unsure about is the wrong move.

Enjoy

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