The hidden cost of keeping secrets | Mel Robbins #Shorts

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The secret you’re keeping is costing you more than you think.

According to Harvard Business School professor and behavioral scientist, Dr. Leslie K. John, most secrets aren’t harmless.

They’re exhausting because they’re an unfinished loop your brain is constantly trying to resolve.

When you keep a secret, you’re constantly asking yourself:

Should I say it? Should I not?

And according to Dr. Leslie John, that mental tug-of-war drains your focus, lowers your cognitive performance, and is even linked to worse physical health.

But Dr. John says you don’t need to tell everyone everything - some secrets really do need to be kept - but you should find a way to process and release it - even if that’s just writing it down.

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, Dr. Leslie John explains the hidden costs of staying silent, why our fear of oversharing is leading to loneliness, weaker relationships, and missed career opportunities, and the best ways you can start opening up more to the people in your life.

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