Coping Styles: Narcissist Abuses "Loved" Ones Despite Abandonment Anxiety
June 11, 2016
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The narcissist abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways:
(1) Devaluing others restores his sense of superiority and grandiosity;
(2) He preempts his own abandonment by precipitating it and, thus, controlling the situation;
(3) His abusive conduct helps him to learn more about his "loved" ones by observing their reactions and this added information alleviates his anxiety;
(4) Abuse works: it leads to the modification of the victims' behavior and to submissiveness.
There are 5 effective coping styles:
(1) Submissiveness;
(2) Counterdependent/conflictive stance;
(3) Mirroring;
(4) Collusion;
(5) Displacement (redirecting the abuse at third parties) which is a form of cultish shared psychosis.
(From the book "Malignant SelfloveNarcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 ebooks, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships)
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