Borderline Seeks Fantasy but Flees to Reality
February 23, 2023
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as posted by the channelBorderlines (women and men alike) pendulate between two anxieties: abandonment (separation insecurity) and engulfment (enmeshment). This creates an approach-avoidance repetition compulsion (“I hate you, don’t leave me”).
During the avoidance phase, the borderline seeks futilely to become more grounded in reality, often through the agency of a sexual partner or friends.
But then she reverts to the approach phase of the cycle and re-enters a fantasy world, a simulation in which her intimate partner provides external regulation: stabilizes her moods and affects (emotions).
She merges with her significant other, fuses into a single organism by outsourcing her mind to him.
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