How Narcissist Others YOU, Himself

The Other triggers and then actualizes potentials interactively (emotions, affects, cognitions, behaviors, unconscious primary processes).

The Self triggers and actualizes the same potentials similarly.

Self and Other have same epistemological (functional) status.

The Self is Othered, it is the Primal Other. It is the outcome of Othering the mother (separation-individuation).

Proof that Self is Othered we see in DID and dissociative self-states (NPD, BPD). Identity diffusion or disturbance are forms of Othering.

In my work, Self=self-states

The Primal Othering is traumatic: it involves a breakdown of the unitary world when the infant perceives its separate existence through the mother's gaze.

It internalizes this gaze (the internal eye).

Introspection and self-reference depend on such Othering of the Self.

Regulation, agency, self-efficacy depend on introspection.

Similarly, Othering objects (aka object relations) is modelled on the Primal Othering of the Self. It is rendered impossible in its absence.

When formation of an integrated/constellated Self is disrupted, the result is an empty schizoid core, devoid of any Other. It leads to an inability to Other people (relate to them as external, separate objects). Also, an incapacity to actualize intensional emotions, affects, cognitions, and behaviors.

Fantasy is an attempt to compensate for these deficiencies by Othering constructs (such as the False Self) or internal objects. The failure of such Othering (aka incorporation) leads to narcissism.

Devaluation is alterity determined, according to Spivak, by the process of othering.

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