Free Yourself from Tyranny of Your Ego Ideal (Boredom, Culture)

You should work on your ego ideal (the way you think you should be or ought to be). Not everyone is built to socialize. Not everyone is built to have relationships. Not everyone is built to conform.

You have an image of how and what you should be (“ideal ego”). Your ideal ego sets you up for failure because it imposes on you expectations and standards that you find difficult to meet.

Rather than try to change who you are - modify your ego ideal. Rather than attempt to motivate or incentivize or coerce others to conform to your unrealistic ego ideal - change your ego ideal.

If you can’t be humble about your shortcomings, at least be realistic as to your limitations: you cannot control others, life, circumstances, the environment, or the future. To believe otherwise is the intoxicating manic phase of grandiosity.

Focus on your strong suits. Socializing and relationships are not your strong suits. When you emphasize your relative shortcomings rather than your relative advantages - it ends in failure and paranoid ideation.

When you keep placing yourself in impossible situations with the wrong people this leads to hypervigilance and to paranoid ideation.

Regarding boredom: it is usually a sign that you are not challenging yourself enough - or that you have no long-term vision/plan - or that you are insecure (don’t trust yourself to be able to accomplish your goals).

Culture No Excuse for Abuse

One’s culture is no excuse for abuse. Anyone abuses you - even a first degree relative - you cut them off. No contact. Anyone manipulates or coerces you into doing something - you UNdo it. No two ways about it. I have never used my culture as an alibi, as an excuse to not do the right thing.

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