Wunderkind Narcissist Refuses to Grow Up

Blank slate: slate is the template (e.g., giftedness)

“Drama of Gifted Child” by Alice Miller

Few gifted children attain success later in life. This is especially true when they evolve into full-fledged narcissists.

Most of them end up being losers and unmitigated, miserable failures in every field of life, impoverished, isolated, shunned, and denied the recognition that they sometimes deserve (plagiarized and ignored). Why is that?

Entitlement

Indolence (getting away with it, getting by)

Misanthropy is contemptuous (not merely haughty) and precludes collaboration, cooperation, communal or prosocial developmental path

In malignant narcissists, virulent and ubiquitous sadism guarantees accrued adverse outcomes.

I wrote in “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” in 1997:

"Forcing a child into of adult pursuits is one of the subtlest varieties of soul murder. Very often we find that the narcissist was deprived of his childhood. He may have been a Wunderkind, the answer to his mother's prayers and the salve to her frustrations. A human computing machine, a walking-talking encyclopaedia, a curiosity, a circus freak – he may have been observed by developmental psychologists, interviewed by the media, endured the envy of his peers and their pushy mothers.

Consequently, such narcissists constantly clash with figures of authority because they feel entitled to special treatment, immune to prosecution, with a mission in life, destined for greatness, and, therefore, inherently superior.

The Wunderkind narcissist refuses to grow up. In his mind, his tender age formed an integral part of the precocious miracle that he once was. One looks much less phenomenal and one's exploits and achievements are much less awe-inspiring at the age of 40 – than at the age of 4. Better stay young forever and thus secure one's Narcissistic Supply.

So, the narcissist refuses to grow up. He never takes out a driver's licence. He does not have children. He rarely has sex. He never settle-down in one place. He rejects intimacy. In short, he refrains from adulthood and adult chores. He has no adult skills. He assumes no adult responsibilities. He expects indulgence from others. He is petulant and haughtily spoiled. He is capricious, infantile and emotionally labile and immature. The narcissist is frequently a 40 years-old brat."

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