Your Role, Punishment in Narcissist’s Narrative: How You Fit In

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People with a disorganized erratic cluster B personality disorder create simultaneous but mutually exclusive narratives of their lives intended to manage dissonance, both internal and external (with reality). These narratives are the equivalents of self-states or “multiple” personalities (subpersonalities).

Examples of such narratives: I am normal, I have a loving family, I am promiscuous, I am a psychopath.

When these narratives collapse, the disordered person allocates them to his/her nearest and dearest as if these were theatre productions or movies (e.g., the narcissist’s shared fantasy). The role of these actors is to validate the reality of the narratives (the same function of narcissistic supply in NPD).

The actors dissociate (depersonalize and derealize) within the fantasy.

Because these actors are misperceived as internal objects, offloading the narratives onto them unburdens the disordered person. The actions of the actors or agents are owned by the disordered person without the attendant risks or adverse consequences.

When the actors regain independence, agency, and personal autonomy, they become persecutory objects and the disordered person experiences narcissistic mortification.

The disordered person attempts to hoover them or to co-opt anyone new in their lives. Should this strategy fail, they try to destroy the frustrating objects.

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