Prof Sam Vaknin
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Control Freaks and Their Victims
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16:31Now PlayingExcluding Sado-masochism, power play, manipulation
Controller
Motivations: self-aggrandizement (omnipotence, exclusive info = omniscience) OR separation insecurity (abandonment anxiety), esp. if the partner is unhappy (in which case, the abuse is a loyalty test)
Techniques: intimidation, disorientation, expectations
Controlled/Controlee/Victim
Motivations: secure base (safety in comfort zone), victimhood, internalize bad object (self-harm and self-defeat validating the introjects)
Techniques: collusion in shared fantasy, control from the bottom, lability/dysregulation (to inject uncertainty)
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