Get Over Your Avoidant Ex in 3 Easy Steps
April 28, 2026
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How to Get Over Your Avoidant Ex (And Finally Move On)
Are you struggling to get over someone…
who isn’t even showing up for you anymore?
It’s painful. Confusing. And it can leave you stuck in a loop of overthinking, hoping, and emotional exhaustion .
Episode Summary
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the real reasons why it’s so hard to get over an avoidant ex and what you can do to finally move forward.
The biggest factor? Your subconscious mind.
While your conscious mind may know the relationship isn’t working, your subconscious is still:
Identifying with that person
Relying on them to meet key emotional needs
Holding onto stories and meanings about the breakup
Clinging to the fantasy of what could have been
This creates a powerful sense of loss not just of the person, but of:
The traits you associated with them
The needs they (sometimes) fulfilled
The identity you built around the relationship
This video walks you through a clear, practical process to break that cycle:
• Identify the needs you associated with the relationship
• Assess how much those needs are actually being met
• Begin meeting those needs yourself in small, consistent ways
• Separate the reality of the relationship from the fantasy
Because healing doesn’t come from waiting for closure.
It comes from reclaiming your needs, your identity, and your sense of self.
Key Takeaways
✔️ Why it’s so hard to get over an avoidant ex
✔️ The difference between the conscious and subconscious mind
✔️ How we subconsciously identify with our partners
✔️ Why unmet needs create emotional attachment and grief
✔️ How painful storytelling keeps you stuck after a breakup
✔️ Why we often grieve the fantasy more than the person
✔️ The importance of identifying and meeting your own needs
✔️ How to reality-check the relationship vs. idealization
✔️ Why self-reliance accelerates emotional healing
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Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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