Functional Freeze: How The Nervous System of the Dismissive Avoidant Governs the Relationship
June 19, 2026
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Have you ever noticed that some Avoidants don't get angry during conflict...
They go numb.
They shut down, retreat, and seem emotionally unavailable when connection is needed most.
Episode Summary
In this video, Thais Gibson explains the neuroscience behind why Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles often become emotionally numb instead of angry during conflict situations.
You'll learn how Polyvagal Theory and the Window of Tolerance help explain Avoidant behavior, why Dismissive Avoidants frequently enter Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Mode, and how early experiences condition the nervous system to respond to stress through withdrawal rather than confrontation.
Thais also explores why Avoidants often struggle with co-regulation, what this experience feels like for their partners, and how healthy communication, positive framing, and emotional regulation can help create more productive relationship outcomes. Finally, she shares why setting relationship deadlines can help determine whether meaningful change and reciprocity are taking place.
Key Takeaways
✔️ Dismissive Avoidants often shut down instead of expressing anger
✔️ Dorsal Vagal Shutdown is a nervous system survival response
✔️ Conflict can trigger emotional withdrawal and numbness
✔️ Avoidants often struggle with co-regulation during stress
✔️ Positive communication reduces defensive shutdown patterns
✔️ Healthy relationships require reciprocity and follow-through
✔️ Setting deadlines helps evaluate relationship progress
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Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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