Exclusive: How The Pill, Dating Apps, Porn & Girl Bosses BROKE Love | Matthew Hussey

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Welcome to another power-packed episode of Impact Theory, I’m Tom Bilyeu!

In today’s episode, Matthew Hussey and I are taking a deep dive into romantic relationships and how to most effectively navigate the challenging, high-stakes dating game in 2024.

From THE pill to the red pill, dating apps, crumbling gender norms, social media, weed, porn, aimlessness – all of it together is a disastrous cocktail.

And the volume and velocity of terrible, complex dating advice on the internet is astonishing, given there is a hilariously simple path to seduction and success in finding a real, lasting partnership.

Here to unpack the complexities of modern relationships is New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and worldleading dating coach, Matthew Hussey. Check out his latest book, “Love Life”, out now at

In this interview, we touch on:

- stories men tell themselves about why women aren’t interested in them

- the red pill advice driving men crazy

- the search for empathy and acceptance in relationships

- challenges of modern dating culture

- the importance of healing from past traumas

- embracing individuality and charisma

- the impact of vulnerability in attraction

- societal impacts of women's independence

- the balance between protecting oneself and being vulnerable

- recognizing and avoiding unhealthy relationship patterns

- developing power beyond traditional stereotypes

- practical steps to feel visible and improve self-worth

- the complexity of understanding women and attraction

Through personal stories, both Matthew and I open up about our experiences with vulnerability in our relationships and the profound impact of being fully seen and accepted.

Buckle up for an episode that promises to not only challenge your perspectives but offer tangible advice on navigating the evolving landscape of love and relationships.

Chapter Markers:

[0:00] What drives attraction

[41:07] Keys to finding love

[1:13:22] A different perspective on life's unfairness

[1:44:33] Not everyone can understand you

[2:18:47] Priorities for personal fulfillment

[2:53:10] New sources of validation

Powerful Insights From Matthew Hussey:

"So much of what drives attraction is more charisma...I think that it's a kind of the idea that the rich guy gets or the attention is quickly undermined by how much a woman will pay more attention to someone who's charismatic in a room than the guy who is like, you know, flaunting how much wealth they have."

"If you have fundamental things in place, like your own confidence, like an acceptance of yourself and who you are, like a sense of purpose about what you enjoy and what you want to do in life, you are going to find someone who appreciates you for what you are, for who you are, for what you're doing, that you don't fit into some kind of a mold that would win the popularity contest in the mating game."

“How do we actually bring men and women together and have them be more compassionate towards each other on the women's side, too? Because to me, that will change the game for people."

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