How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence | Dr. Marc Brackett

In this episode, my guest is Dr. Marc Brackett, Ph.D., a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University, director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, and a world expert on what emotions are, how to interpret them, and how to work with emotions to yield a more impactful, meaningful and healthier life. We explore differences between introverts and extroverts, in-person and text-based emotional communication, and how emotional suppression impacts us.

We discuss emotional intelligence and describe tools to improve emotional regulation and communication in personal and professional relationships. We also explore the role of emotions in learning, resolving conflicts, and decision-making. We also discuss bullying in kids and adults, both in person and online. This episode provides a clear and novel framework for thinking about emotions and data-supported tools to improve emotion regulation, self-awareness, and empathic attunement.

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Timestamps

00:00:00 Dr. Marc Brackett

00:02:02 Sponsors: BetterHelp, Eight Sleep & Eudēmonia

00:06:03 What is Emotional Intelligence?; Self & Others

00:11:18 Language & Emotion

00:18:52 Emojis; Anger vs. Disappointment; Behavior & Emotion

00:24:35 Sponsor: AG1

00:26:05 Parent/Teacher Support; Online Etiquette

00:31:24 Anonymity, Online Comments

00:35:46 Happiness vs. Contentment; Knowing Oneself

00:41:33 Introversion & Extroversion; Personality & Emotional Intelligence

00:51:28 Sponsor: LMNT

00:52:40 Texting & Relationships

01:00:37 Tool: Mood Meter, Energy & Pleasantness Scale

01:06:28 Emotion Suppression; Permission to Feel, Emotions Mentor

01:19:42 Discussing Feelings; Emotional Self-Awareness

01:25:00 Understanding Cause of Emotions, Stress, Envy

01:33:40 Framing Empathy, Compassionate Empathy

01:42:28 Asking Question; Tools: Reframing, Hot Air Balloon; Distancing

01:49:44 Stereotypes, “Emotional”

01:53:49 Emotions, Learning & Decision Making; Intention

02:02:43 Emotion App & Self-Awareness; Gratitude Practice

02:07:13 Bullying

02:18:06 Courage & Bullying; Emotion Education