Your Empathy as Narcissistic Injury: Narcissist Never Learns, No Insight

Narcissists are looking for partners to provide 3 SSs: Supply, Sex, Services.

Narcissists couldn’t care less if you have a high level of empathy, a low, or none.

Empathy is a narcissistic injury: advice, help, support, sharing, expressing an interest (induces paranoia), and intimacy.

Life is a process of becoming via insight.

Insight creates empathy.

Empathy is the foundation of learning because it allows for comparison.

All three are impossible without access to emotions.

If you have access only to negative emotions you obtain cold empathy aimed at subsuming others, making them like you, avoiding growth and learning.

Where emotions are inaccessible, narcissists attempt to grasp others and themselves analytically. But such knowledge is like cramming for an exam: it is not assimilated or integrated. It dooms to compulsive repetition like some demented being or badly programmed machine in a loop. The same lessons are rediscovered with every mortification (to learn the narcissist must first decompensate, deactivate all his defenses).

Access to positive emotions guarantees full fledged empathy via insight and learning and generates growth.

Narcissist rejects help, advice because he knows that he is incorrigible.

He discourages intimacy because of his abandonment anxiety ("if they see my true face").

The narcissist reacts with aggression to any presumption of intimacy and rejects cruelly love and caring when offered to him (via sadistic frustration, withholding, rejection, and avoidance as well as active abuse). Such presumption of love implies equality, commonness, and knowability, challenges to his grandiosity.

Displays of emotions are fake, embarrassing.

"Empath", "super-empath" - and, now, "(super)nova empath" - are self-aggrandizing labels used by covert narcissists online as they perpetuate and leverage their newfound eternal pro victim status to garner attention (and, sometimes, profit).

To prove my point conclusively, join the cesspits that pass for empath support forums and innocently dare to suggest that someone there is not an empath. Or that she may have had a role to play in the relationship (starting with her flawed mate selection).

You will instantly become the recipient of every form of abuse and malevolence known to man (or woman), far more egregious than anything you have ever endured from your narcissist. Nothing worse than the narcissistic or passive-aggression of covert narcissists (er, sorry, empaths).

Friendship

Men are prone to sexual overperception: they misinterpret many female gestures and behaviors as invitations to copulate then and there.

To be mere friends with a woman is perceived by many men as a narcissistic injury. When a woman rejects a man sexually or romantically and friendzones him, it implies that she has judged him to be of inferior quality, defective, inadequate, lacking, and has rejected him as as a potential lover, partner, spouse, and father.

Such injury can morph into narcissistic mortification if the woman offering friendship (friendzoning) used to be, at one time, the man's date, spouse, or intimate partner and had dumped him in favor of another man with whom she has had sex (at times while cheating) or with whom she had later created a family.

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