Vaknin Rips Into Feminist: Genders, Sex, Relationships (Excerpts)

Excerpts from a 4(!) hours interview with a ferocious third wave feminist.

Men invented the pill.

Men advocated for casual sex at the beginning of the 20th century.

Men sparked the sexual “free love” revolution and then the hookup culture, replete with dating apps.

Men opened up the workplace to women. Now 40% of primary breadwinners in many industrialized countries are female.

Yet, women label these self-interested male acts: feminism or “women’s empowerment”. Go figure.

The language used to describe sex is male-centric: penetration, not engulfment. No difference of importance or involvement between key and lock, protein and receptor, or substrate and reagent.

Couples are sexless because sex decoupled from intimacy and associated with risk and novelty (sex positivity).

Casual sex is nothing new, but today it is the dominant/exclusive practice and sexual script, not optional. And casual sex is in lieu of relationships, intended to delay commitment owing, perhaps to fear of divorce (intergenerational trauma).

Profile of the life of a modern woman:

She spends most of her time working, sometimes trapped in jobs she hates or with people she detests (it is called her career);

She is burdened with a mountain of crippling debt;

She deliberately acts and dresses as a “slut” to attract men (it is called sex positivity or raunch culture);

She has one night stands with total strangers (hookups) and near strangers (“dates”);

Irregularly and infrequently, she has sex with friends with benefits or a reluctant temporary “intimate” partner;

One in ten offer sex on camera even to random men: that’s how desperate they are;

One in 12 participate in degrading group sex and kink when they don’t want to. A shocking one third are sexually assaulted;

She fleets and flees from one pseudo-relationship to another. Most of these liaisons end up being sexless, abusive, and last a few months only;

She has 90% fewer best friends than in the 1980s;

She is far more likely to drink heavily regularly and to suffer from mental health disorders: mood, anxiety, and substance abuse;

She is 31% likely to remain a lifelong single and 60% likely to divorce more than once or be a single mother;

She is 20% likely to be childless. Increasingly, she gets pregnant via donor sperm in an IVF procedure.

Well done, third wave feminism. Women have arrived for sure: they have become men and are “empowered”.

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