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Harvard Psychologist Shows You How to Make Your Negative Thoughts Serve You | Susan David
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53:02Now PlayingWe live in a culture that tells us that some emotions are bad. Unfortunately, these same “bad” emotions are unavoidable for anyone aiming to live a meaningful life. As a result, many of us spend much of our lives in conflict with our own emotions, stuck in self-narratives that no longer serve us. Thankfully, on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Harvard Psychologist Susan David shows us a way out of this self-destructive internal conflict.
She explains how to use your “negative” emotions to connect with your core values (which you can learn more about by taking this quiz here). She also discusses the dangers of focusing on being right, the power of selfcompassion and importance of emotional agility.
SHOW NOTES:
Emotions are data but they are not directives [1:33]
How we approach our thoughts, emotions and stories determines our quality of life [3:48]
What do you do when you realize the stories you tell yourself no longer serve you? [6:26]
Our culture tells us some emotions are bad, so we get in conflict with our emotions [11:50]
Only dead people never feel stress, anger, agitation or fear [14:15]
How do you uncover what your emotions are really trying to tell you? [17:35]
Technology has outstripped our ability to thrive [20:32]
Susan explains how to understand your emotions in a more specific way [22:53]
Our minds can convince us that we are right, even if it destroys our relationships [28:04]
Susan describes the process of recognizing our emotions and stories for what they are [31:39]
Even if the gods tell you that you’re right, you still have to decide who you want to be [33:46]
Being seen and belonging are core human needs [36:35]
Tom and Susan discuss the “tyranny of positivity” [38:30]
Success is living a life concordant with your values [41:43]
Susan shares the impact she wants to have on the world [47:08]
QUOTES:
“Some of our stories were written on mental chalkboards at age 3.” [5:53]
“Our thoughts, our emotions and our stories aren’t good or bad. They just are.” [10:53]
“Discomfort is the price of ambition to a meaningful life.” [14:43]
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