The Cure for Addiction

My guest on the Huberman Lab podcast out now is @realterryreal — therapist, best-selling author and expert on male emotional health and how men can build the skills for healthy relating to others: in relationships, work, friendships and to themselves.

We discuss how the conflicting and ever-changing messages about what masculinity is are impacting the mental and physical health of men and boys.

Terry explains how learning the skill of "relationality" leads to improvements in all aspects of boys' and men's lives and shares practical tools for how to do that.

We also discuss the essential role of having a trusted male community to build confidence and self-esteem.

It's a very direct conversation. We explore things by generation and also ask, for instance, why a lot of guys who are in romantic relationships struggle with other kinds of relationships and to make forward progress in work and why they still experience a lot of depression… (There is a broad misconception that the only origin of the male mental health crisis is lack of romantic relationships, but that's actually not what the data show.) Although, of course, that may play a role in some cases.

This conversation offers actionable guidance for boys, men and women seeking to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.