Prof Sam Vaknin
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Why People-pleasers Can't Think Straight (Self-states, Constructs, Introjects)
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16:44Now PlayingWatch Why Narcissists Can’t Think Straight (Constructs, Introjects, Memories, Defenses)
These automatic thoughts are at the core of people pleasing and parentifying children:
1. My happiness is always at someone else’s expense (zero sum game);
2. I have to earn my happiness, I don’t deserve it;
3. I have to somehow bribe people to stay with me, collaborate with me, help me, or tolerate me because I am a bad object (unworthy, unlovable, crazy, inadequate, dissolute, hopeless, and so on).
4. I need to compromise on my boundaries and rights owing to all the above.
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