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Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass.
The tools you’re about to learn will help you become more #confident, #influential, and even make more #money.
Today, we’re talking about The “It” Factor.
Some people just seem to have IT, right?
When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind.
These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more.
So today we’re asking…
What is “It” that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them?
And, more importantly, how can you get it?
Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The @ScienceOfPeople.
I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched.
Turns out The It Factor has another name: #charisma.
And the good news?
YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today.
You’re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships.
The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak.
That’s why today’s episode is a masterclass. It's jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma.
And you deserve that.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Exactly what charisma is and why it matters.
- The qualities of a charismatic person
- Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence
- Why you don’t have to be an extrovert to be charismatic
- What highly competent people are missing.
- What highly warm people are missing.
- The reason why you keep getting passed over for that promotion
- Why a second impression is as important as the first
- Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up
- A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are
- How upspeak diminishes other people’s confidence in you
- And a simple way to start training yourself to stop
- Why you never want to fake smile
- Multiple tools you can start using today to build your charisma
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