The Surprising Link Between People Pleasing & Your Health: MD’s Recommendation on How to Say “No”

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Does this doctor have the health secret you’ve been looking for? Does people-pleasing really make you sick?

Dr. Neha Sangwan (@Doctorneha is an internal medicine physician, bestselling author, and accomplished researcher.

Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Sangwan to learn the truth about people-pleasing.

Topics discussed include:

People-pleasing: what it is

Are you a “yes” person?

The difference between “going with the flow” and people pleasing

Why avoiding conflict makes you a people-pleaser

What your “childhood blueprint” is and how it shapes adulthood

People pleasing and the link to illness

What your parents did or said to turn you into a people-pleaser

Why people-pleasing is a coping mechanism

Why you can’t deal with other people’s discomfort

How to trace your people pleasing back to a single moment in time

Why being stressed, irritated, and tired is a sign that you are a people-pleaser

Why being a control freak may be a sign of people pleasing

How to unlearn people pleasing

How every conflict in your life traces back to childhood trauma

What happens, from a medical perspective, when you have an unresolved conflict?

The secret reason you’re an overachiever

How to stop your people-pleasing behavior at work and set better boundaries

What it really means when you resent the people you love

Why people-pleasing is a “protection tool” you learn to use in childhood

The link between chronic worry and people pleasing

The simple 3-part framework Dr. Sangwan uses to say “no” when you mean "no"

How 80% of all illnesses are caused by stress

The 5 questions you should ask yourself to understand what your body is really trying to signal to you

You can purchase Dr. Sangwan’s book, ‘TalkRxFive Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here

Download a FREE audio chapter from ‘TalkRxFive Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here

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Instagram: instagram.com/doctorneha

Webpage: intuitiveintelligenceinc.com

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